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walbournAndrea once said she looked at personals to cheer herself up when she was feeling lonely. I suppose one could take it like "at least I'm not that pathetic" but I suspect it is just because she finds silly things funny. As an aside, I think Andrea's propensity for the silly is one of the main reasons I was attracted to her in the first place. Damn do I love the crazy ones.
For myself, I find them frustrating. Over the past three years I've perused a lot of them, sent a few e-mails, but with pretty much no success. Technically I meet![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
jeliza first through the Stranger personals, but it was only because we happen to run into each other at the Third Place dinners that things ever went anywhere so I just don't thinkg personals work for me. OKCupid is chock full of attractive interesting people who don't return e-mails, largely I'm assuming because the site has become a 'hook-up' site--as evidenced by the constant and annoying banner ads scrolls for adult personals. Of course, it is also full of hook-up ads, crazy people, and really young girls.
I guess if I'm serious about meeting more people I'd try one of the 'single activity' clubs, but frankly I find the whole idea nauseating. I think my tangential experience with the clubs viaappleang's dad just gave me a bad vibe. I work at a company of 40k+ people, but I rarely meet anyone outside my immediate group. I've managed to make a lot of friends through gaming, but that's a pretty limited subset. I've made acquaintances through the pagan community, but I guess I'm just not putting enough effort into consistently making the events to really make some friendships.
When I first moved to Seattle, I knew not a soul. The only people I knew wereroyalbananafish and Andrea down in Portland. I put a lot of energy into making new connections here for a while, and I think I just got tired of the effort and a bit comfortable. The truth is that as much as I love the friends I do have here, they have their own lives and I only see them maybe once a week. I may be an introvert, but I need more than that and the only way I'm going to get it is putting a lot of effort into meeting new people. It is just damn hard and uncomfortable for me.
Staying up too late isn't helping my loneliness or tendancy to angst either. Getting to bed now.
For myself, I find them frustrating. Over the past three years I've perused a lot of them, sent a few e-mails, but with pretty much no success. Technically I meet
jeliza first through the Stranger personals, but it was only because we happen to run into each other at the Third Place dinners that things ever went anywhere so I just don't thinkg personals work for me. OKCupid is chock full of attractive interesting people who don't return e-mails, largely I'm assuming because the site has become a 'hook-up' site--as evidenced by the constant and annoying banner ads scrolls for adult personals. Of course, it is also full of hook-up ads, crazy people, and really young girls.I guess if I'm serious about meeting more people I'd try one of the 'single activity' clubs, but frankly I find the whole idea nauseating. I think my tangential experience with the clubs via
appleang's dad just gave me a bad vibe. I work at a company of 40k+ people, but I rarely meet anyone outside my immediate group. I've managed to make a lot of friends through gaming, but that's a pretty limited subset. I've made acquaintances through the pagan community, but I guess I'm just not putting enough effort into consistently making the events to really make some friendships.When I first moved to Seattle, I knew not a soul. The only people I knew were
royalbananafish and Andrea down in Portland. I put a lot of energy into making new connections here for a while, and I think I just got tired of the effort and a bit comfortable. The truth is that as much as I love the friends I do have here, they have their own lives and I only see them maybe once a week. I may be an introvert, but I need more than that and the only way I'm going to get it is putting a lot of effort into meeting new people. It is just damn hard and uncomfortable for me.Staying up too late isn't helping my loneliness or tendancy to angst either. Getting to bed now.
